2016年8月24日星期三

她让我看到孩子的另一面

今年3月杪的最后一堂课。我吩咐承懿要和老师合照。
承懿在2008年3月开始去上理惠老师的课。基本上是一对一的课。一个星期一次。总共上了8年。一段不算短的日子。

今年3月(很奇妙的还是3月),承懿因为学校活动时间的一些调动,和理惠老师的课“撞期”,配合不到其他时间,最后唯有和理惠老师说bye-bye。

而上个月放假,我特别要求理惠老师给承懿上“假期班”, 她也答应。所以他俩再续师生缘,承懿去上了四个课程。

非常感谢用心的理惠老师, 她是承懿生命中的贵人。是真的(当初我听从她的劝告,不再让承懿服药,而是利用每天的肢体运动、协调动作来提升他的专注力)。

我要求承懿写一篇有关理惠老师的文章, 他当然呱呱叫。不过最后还是交货了。写完之后他有点夸张地说:“妈咪,要想这么多年前在 Teacher Rie那里做过的事,很难咯。也很痛苦。” 我听了大大声笑。

孩子,难也好,痛苦也好,想想这些年来她对你的用心和帮助,要好好记得。要谢谢!

妈咪尤其谢谢理惠老师让妈咪看到你的另一面。

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I’m known to be a special kid, diagnosed with dyspraxia and ADD that affects my coordination and attention. I didn’t want this, but I just happened to be born like this. So I had no choice but to live with it.

However, my mother was keen on making me change my state so that I could let all these disorder not affecting my life entirely and also, let me fit in with other people so that I looked like a normal person. Other than my mother, there was one other person who also assisted me to fix my coordination and attention problems: Ms. Rie.

I first met her when I was seven. I took a small IQ test and she was quite pleased with my results. After that, I started attending her classes every Monday for an hour in the morning when I was in primary school. I remember that I did some exercises such as throwing bean bags and balls, doing some math questions in a specific way such as model drawing, techniques to improve my handwriting and so on. I have to admit, it was actually quite a hard time doing all those things!

Sometimes, there were also other activities that did not involve throwing stuff around with both of my hands. There was some time where I made my own artwork using some materials such as special crayons that were made out of beeswax. There was one exercise that I would do when I was 8 to 12 years old, it was called the “lazy 8”. So basically, what I had to do was to get the yellow, blue and red beeswax crayons and choose one of them at first. After that, I would use the crayon to draw an “8” shape, lying on it’s side, so it looked like the infinity side. Once I was done drawing the “8” shape with one colour, I would select the second colour and continue to draw over the first “8” shape. The same rule applied to the third crayon. Later on, I realized that this activity was to test if your left and right brain were both connected to each other and to see if your mental state was balanced. It was quite an interesting activity, actually.

Also, the exercises such as throwing the beanbags and balls were meant to improve my hand and eye coordination. I would throw the objects from one hand to another, and back again. Sometimes there were also different styles to how these things were passed. One style was that I had to throw it under my leg and to the other hand. The other one involved me throwing 2 of the objects in each hand, and sometimes switching the objects to the other hand without looking! That was also one of the harder exercises that I had to do. However, it actually works and I’ve been doing this same exercise for about 7 years!

I also learnt a bit of Japanese there, and knew how to differentiate the letters of Hiragana, Katakana and Kanji. In fact, the letters and phrases in Kanji were kind of similar to the phrases that appeared in the Chinese vocabulary! I learnt some basics such as how to count numbers, names of countries, and also some other basic phrases with Ms. Rie. However, I didn’t’ really manage to get good at it, and I had very few opportunities to test my Japanese oral skills in life.

Sometimes, Ms. Rie would also let me do my own art in some of her lessons. Once, I used some powder from a special crayon to make my own artwork by dabbing some of the coloured powder onto my finger. Then, I would slowly press my finger onto the paper and move it up and down, and controlling my pressure on the paper. After some time when everything was done, I had produced some artwork that looked decently nice. I would then spray the paper with some kind of aerosol so that the powder would stick to the paper. When I got home, I would place the picture somewhere visible such as the fridge, so that I could admire my “masterpiece”. (Ha-ha, not really.)

这种颜料好像是粉彩画吧。。。(我不确定)

我特别喜欢这一张。因为是小狗狗的关系吧。

Another type of drawing involved me drawing random curved lines onto a piece of paper, forming irregularly shaped areas of different sizes on the paper. I would then take 2 black ink pens and start creating different patterns in each area, so that every single area has its own unique pattern. For one area, I would make it checkered by splitting the area into smaller parts, and then colour one square black, one square white, one square black, one square white, alternating between colours to add that “checker board” feel. It felt great to look at the end product once I was done.

承懿比我厉害, 会画禅绕。

假期班的功课。用黑笔画图案,然后上水彩。

Also, recently Ms. Rie had been conducting a session called a “Brain Gym” which was basically helping me to conquer my weaknesses and also let me excel in my strengths. She had helped me to improve my listening and comprehension skills, which helped me to listen to pieces of information for a longer period of time. I also had developed the ability to type documents at a faster rate, so that I could conserve time for some other activities. It was strange about how she found out what I really needed at the time, or what was most important. I would read out a sentence, such as “I want to improve my listening skills so that I could listen to information for a longer period of time.” She would then press down on my hand, and my body would react, sending signals if that was really what I needed to do. It was strange. After that, she would let me do some exercises to help me to achieve my goals.

After these 7-8 years of “therapy” lessons, I felt that Ms. Rie had actually helped me to make an improvement in my life and I would like to thank her for all that she has done. Now, I was more able to fit into the society and I had learnt a lot of things. Now, whenever I encounter difficulties in my life, I have several solutions to solve the issues by doing the exercises she had taught me.

很可爱的纸陀罗。真的可以转。我试了。


承懿把这一块板和这一堆五彩缤纷、重叠的线
构成的图案拿
回来时, 我有点呆了!
(他的努力,专注力和耐性)


2016年8月22日星期一

黑妈妈的新书

上个星期三晚上跑了趟书店。找不到洁玲的新书。应该当天上架。承懿有少少失望。

隔天, 我们到另一家商场的另一家书店,还是找不着。承懿失望到半死。(我知道他是想趁着假期最后那几天,可以读完黑妈妈的小说。)

昨天晚上我们在外用餐。点餐之后,他死心不息要去书店找书。这一次不再失望了。


书买回来了, 点的菜肴也上桌了。先喂五脏庙。吃饱之后,他开始啃小说。

今天放学之后,他继续啃。

刚才晚餐过后,他正开着电视要看新闻。对我说:“妈咪, 可以告诉 aunty洁玲, 我看完她的小说了。”

“那好看吗?”

“好啊!只是ending 有点 sad。”

2016年8月20日星期六

3张照片 ~ 还是“饥饿8小时”

三张从 GBBM Puchong Jaya FB墙上借来的照片。

723 举办的 "饥饿8小时”体验营。承懿去当了一天工委。活动是在星期六, 但是他提前在星期五晚上九点半,去营地报到。帮忙准备。

活动之前的两个星期, 也是星期五的晚上。承懿去参加筹委们的会议。大家讨论活动流程、节目安排、游戏细节、规则等等。

他告诉我, 他会负责摄影、录影。还有“水战”的环节。之后那两个礼拜, 一直担心工委人数不够。时常在我面前碎碎念(他可能没有察觉)。总之一句话:投入!

终于体验营结束了。他又忙着上载照片。然后又花了很多心思时间制作7 分钟的视频。我问他:“是营长给你做的 project 吗?” 他说不是。“I just want to make the clip, for memory." (营长有没有很感动啊?!)

GBBM的 FB 专页上载了体验营的相册。我都一一看了。承懿入镜的机会不多,毕竟他负责拿相机。

特别喜欢这几张照片。看了有感动。也有感触。感觉他的欢喜和投入。

看来他的英文名字是取对了。Samson = 太阳之子。我的孩子的笑容是属于阳光的,让人感觉温暖


我的宝贝原来是大哥哥了。
可以负责 station game,和一群小瓜打交道。

星期五晚上,工委们负责清洗场地。
他应该是负责装水。

水战的结果,全身湿透透。他还挺享受的模样。

2016年8月18日星期四

宝贝与 RD

承懿小时侯, 我费尽心机给他喂食故事书。可惜妈咪从小到大阅读的英文书课外读物实在是寥寥可数, 所以要为他寻找合适的书籍挺伤脑筋 (要他有兴趣看的题材,又要他看得明白的文字)。

在MPH发现了 Roald Dahl 一系列的儿童小说。觉得可以试试让他读。我很有自知之明, 只买了当中最薄的三本,内容也选了比较轻松有趣的~ “George's Marvelous Medicine ”、 “Fantastic Mr.Fox” 和 “The Twits”。

那时候,承懿对新事物有一定的抗拒感, 他之前未曾接触这位作者, 所以我和胖爸爸就一页一页给他念, 引发他的兴趣。果然,他“上钩"了,慢慢地会主动拿来自己读了。还会一边读一边偷笑 (故事情节的关系)。

翻箱倒柜找出来他的收藏

“The BFG” 可以说是第一本承懿看的长篇小说。之后他也读了其他的。最爱的是 " Charlie and the chocolate factory"。 在他七八岁的记忆里,有 Roald Dahl的存在。很谢谢这一位作家的多本巨著,在那两年里,陪伴承懿长大。

这一本封面设计的BFG应该改版了吧?

原来他小学一年级返乡时买的哦。。。

七八年过去了,当年阅读的小说, 今天搬上了大荧幕。所以我们二话不说, 第一天上映即跑来捧场。

承懿没有忘记当年他读过的故事 ~ the big friendly giant 。小说里的美好、小说里的感动,他应该会记得很久很久。

很多时候, 这些美好和感动, 是支持我们的力量。

电影不错, 好看!

2016年8月17日星期三

开学的时间表

炎热的午后。

我一边推开半掩着的书房门,一边问:“Sam, 你要不要喝火龙果汁啊?”

他抬起头, 把视线从笔电屏幕前挪开, 对着我咧开嘴,微微笑。

“妈咪, 我知道开学的时间表了。你来看~。”

我走到他身后, 眼睛和他一样对着笔电屏幕。

他一边指指点点着屏幕上的表格, 一边讲解:“英文还是凯尔老师教。。。etc etc”

语调中充满欢愉。

感觉得出他满心期待新学期的开始。

妈咪暗地里高兴,也安慰。

承懿制作的“饥饿8小时”视频

承懿在723 那一天去当工委。“饥饿8小时”体验营。

他连续两年去帮 Teacher See 的忙。很是投入。

随我返乡那几天,他花了好些时间制作这个视频。

从构思、剪辑、配乐和翻译一些文字,他用心在做。

视频可能没有做得很好。不过我知道他努力了、 尽力了, 也很享受去帮忙当工委。

孩子,谢谢你在进步。谢谢你在成长。

妈咪乐见其成。所以在这里替你卖广告。

请花7分钟的看一看这个视频, 那是对承懿的一个鼓励。谢谢!

2016年8月11日星期四

我也来玩空中瑜伽

转眼又是星期三(我是说昨天啦),姐姐去空中瑜珈课的日子。

承懿上周接受姨妈的挑战, 跨越了一定的心理障碍。有了经验,也有了信心。他这个礼拜大胆又臭屁地向妈咪下战书,我不可能不接受。

妈咪虽然对瑜珈没啥兴趣, 也有点畏惧这身老骨头即将承受的“煎熬和痛苦” (这其实正是承懿要的乐子),但碍于是他的要求,唯有坦然接受。

接受不是因为好胜 (这个年纪还好胜什么来着?),而是想让承懿知道,虽然妈咪明知自己不会有好表现,仍愿意一试。这种精神很重要。不可能平常对他说教时 "give it a try ", "challenge yourself ", 但就只是要他做,妈咪自己就动口不动手吧。哪来的说服力?

虽然昨晚上课时“丑态百出”, 还是完成了一堂空中瑜珈课。流了很多“油”(注意~不是汗,哈哈哈!), 真难得。

挑战成功,给了承懿一个身教的示范, 自我感觉良好指数飙升。嘻嘻。

最后要谢谢Mei 老师的指导和耐心。她的课,有难度, 但不会有压力。真的很不错!

借用这两天网络红到爆的形容词,昨晚莎莎以洪荒之力上的空中瑜珈课。收到 Mei老师 PM过来的几张照片,让大家看一看、笑一笑(不要笑太大声啊 !)。

专心听、专心看,一步一步跟着老师的指示做, 那些看起来有些匪夷所思的动作,其实可以做得到。虽然姿势不完美 。

我们(就是妈咪和宝贝)这种门外汉可以做得到的话,几乎每个人都可以练空中瑜珈了。

【广告时间】你准备好“飞”起来了吗?记得找 Mei老师哦
站在布条上,感觉好神奇。

承懿也做到了。哇!




空中瑜珈初体验

承懿身边总有很多爱他的、疼他的人。总会想方设法让他有一些新的体验、新的经历。譬如说昨晚,姨妈就带了他去玩空中瑜珈。

起初他有些抗拒,不是很愿意去尝试。我们也没有逼他,就鼓励他去见识一下,什么是可以腾空、飞来飞去的瑜珈。在一旁看看就好了,算是开开眼界。

因为学员不多,承懿慢慢地褪下了“防御”的外衣;几经鼓励,他说他愿意试试半个小时。

结果他“挑战”成功,完成了一个小时的课程。虽然很多动作僵硬、颤抖,还有一些动作是直接跳过 skip,不做 (做不到啦)。

但过程里看到了他的努力和尽力配合(注意力是在半个多小时后就 out 了)。姨妈说她外甥的第一次瑜珈课,算是合格。

虽然承懿在做某些动作时好像很辛苦,但看照片的话,你会觉得他挺enjoy 的。我的孩子就是爱笑~ ~。

(导师是我姐的朋友 ,美。最近她在槟城新设了瑜珈课室。有兴趣的朋友可以联络 美瑜珈。)

开始暖身运动咯

展示臂力的时刻

啊~我的腰我的背我的手臂。。。


大baby睡摇篮。很开心。

2016年8月9日星期二

开心吃饱饱

我的妈妈~如果请她在高贵的冷气西餐厅锯扒,她通常一边吃会一边念,依依哦哦,好像牙痛一样 (我们的耳朵同时也会很痛)。

但是带她到露天小贩中心, 吃一客最简单的chicken chop, 她就开心了;似乎品尝了全天下最好吃、最抵食的鸡扒。

我相信很多妈妈都和我妈一样,心疼孩子的荷包。

所以我和弟弟今天中午投其所好,一家人一起开开心心地吃饱,才最重要!






七夕话语

今年他工作很忙。食不定时。寝不安眠。。

不止一次,在吃很迟的晚餐时,他语带愧疚地:“好耐冇好好陪下我老婆。”

我总是一笑而过:“知道就好啦。”

今天是七夕,我却带了孩子返乡,分隔两地。

所以要想想这位长得胖胖的、对我好好的男人~ 谢谢他爱我。



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