2010年7月28日星期三

10次“对不起”

在全班同学与班主任李老师的见证下CZS同学大声的对我家少爷道歉。
一连说了10次 “赖承懿,对不起!”
CZS还被老师用木尺打了掌心一下。

靓师奶因为Geram的星期二早上中午去见了李老师,告诉整件事的原委,希望她明鉴。
以下是老师追究的经过。

第二节的华文课。
李老师
上课上到一半,突然间停了下来。。。
老师 :我要问一下,有哪一位同学欺负人吗?
全班寂静。你看我我看你。
老师 :今天有家长来找我。。。
王翰权 :是赖承懿的妈妈。(不好意思,很多同学都认得靓师奶。翰权是小学长,中午在教务处站岗)
老师 :家长来投诉,班上有同学欺负孩子。有人用手指“插”孩子的肚子。哪一位同学看到这种情况?
全班还是静静。承懿右边邻座的女同学出声了。
苏微琳 :老师,我看过。CZS欺负赖承懿,拿手指插他的肚子。”(谢谢苏微琳的仗义直言)
人证有了,没得辩驳。认了。
李老师要处罚CZS,有三个选择:用手指“笃”黑板直至有一个小洞 (靓师奶喜欢这个以其人之道换其人之身的方法) / 到课室外面罚站一节 (30分钟) / 向赖承懿道歉10次 + 鞭打掌心1次。
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妈妈问承懿 :“CZS apologized to you, 你觉得怎样?”
“我说 :可以了,下次别做这样的事。。。and inside my heart , my angel was saying “Finally you learn a lesson.”
我的孩子还是挺善良的。
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每一个人都上了一课,包括妈咪。
真的希望这种bully
的事情不会再发生在承懿身上。
Keep my fingers crossed.

7 条评论:

  1. 哈哈哈。。。 超喜歡那個用手指“笃”黑板直至有一个小洞的選擇!

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  2. bro。。。是的。我也一样。没有想过年轻的李老师会来这一招 :P

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  3. Hahaha...... yes, yes. Think Teacher Lee's 1st option was very funny and yet appropriate!
    And that Su Wei Lin was such a brave gal, stood up to tell the truth. Hahaha.... still remember the story of this girl's name!

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  4. jo...yes yes. SWL is the girl with name's story. She is just sitting next to Sam, right side. Lucky that she was brave to be the witness, or else dont know how the story will end....Maybe yr nephew will start to like her, but not love her...hahaha :)

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  5. 面子书留言:
    Aileen Goh 太好了我正为你儿子打抱不平呢!為什麼李老師沒給第四個选择:Sam 笃回他,以其人之道,还其人之身嘛。
    28 July at 09:55
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    Sabrina Woong CW ”谢谢 Aunty Aileen." that's exactly what Sam said :)
    28 July at 11:05
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    Aileen Goh He is most welcome :)
    29 July at 09:10
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    Tricia Yong Pui Yan option 1 is really creative and funny. :) and your kids is kind. CZS understands now the "consequences" of his actions. i hope he also understands the "why" of his behavior. why did he do it? why this is not accpetable? he will not do it again because he learned the good values of "empathy" and not because he is scared of the punishment (if not, he may repeat the bully actions again).
    29 July at 16:15
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    Sabrina Woong CW ‎@ Tricia ~ agree with what you said。家长和老师得精密合作。。。
    29 July at 16:33
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  6. 面子书留言 :
    Lee Wai Wan Sometimes, I feel that our kids are too "good", sometimes, I really wish that my kids can be the notorious type, haha, again me a bad mom.
    29 July at 21:40
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    Sabrina Woong CW WW...i agree with you...survival skill...iI am n the dilema lah :P
    29 July at 22:57 ·
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    Tricia Yong Pui Yan ditto Wai Wan. you're not a bad mom. i want my kids to be notorious too!! they are too "good" sometimes. sometimes i wonder what's wrong with us "kind" moms, to teach our kids with kindness? :) should teach them to survive...
    29 July at 23:57
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    Lee Wai Wan
    We as mother wants our kids to be obedient at home but naugthy enough to survive in the real world.Read an article before, when siblings fight for things, we mother should not interfere, let them fight as long as not hurting each other. Ne...ver ask the eldest to give to didi or mei mei just because the young one cry or scream, is not fair to the eldest, if not in the real world they will be too generous and the young old will be too aggressive.See more
    30 July at 09:37 ·
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  7. 面子书留言3 :
    Sabrina Woong CW I so feel sorry for my boy, at times. because he "misses" the best part of having siblings accompany/fight/argue.... sigh :( 30 July at 09:52
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    Lee Wai Wan let him fight/argue with cousins, or friends around the housing area. My kids always expose to bullies, fight for bicycles, scootes, balls around our apartment. I like my kids to fight with them so that to see how strong they can survive in the real world.
    30 July at 09:59
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    Aw Sin Lay i hv the opposite experience: my daughter compalined that someone pushed her and made her fall down, a few times and got me worried. so, i checked with the teacher. the teacher said that she was the one who started it (i.e. she pushed the boy first)...my goodness !! anyway, my kids hv strong character, which is quite unlike me and my hubby (we always wonder where they got that!!), cause me a lot of headaches as it is like they are quarreling every minutes..
    30 July at 12:37
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    Sabrina Woong CW ‎@ SL ~ I can understand why u + SK wonder abt. Me and my fatty same here. both of us also talkative ...but look at my son.....sigh! 10问9不答,sometime make my hair stand lah :P
    30 July at 13:50
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    Lee Wai Wan me n husband do things very effective and fast, but look at Lynn slow moving action, really makes us "ki siow"
    30 July at 14:09 ·
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    Sabrina Woong CW hahaha. WW. i can fully understand. same here..."ki-siow" + "pek-chik" :P
    30 July at 14:15
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    Tricia Yong Pui Yan
    phew! at least i'm not alone. my 3 kids are constantly fighting, bickering playing favoritism, ganging up against the other (2 vs 1)... the list goes on, you name it. drive me nuts!!! and makes me wonder a lot of time it must be something w...rong with me, the mama...now i feel more "normal". WW, it is very true of what you said about interence from grwonn ups in kids' squabbles and the unfair expectation on the elder ones. i need to work on not to interfere in their fights with friends and cousins etc...kids' mood can change very quickly, one minute they are fighting, another they are laughing and playing silly with each other. that's the magical moment: the ggigles always put a smile on my face.See more
    30 July at 18:20
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    Mimi Ooi PY, that's exactly happened to my niece and nephew! my sister Pat, she has 2 boys and 1 girl!! she just biarkan mereka sahaja... hahaha..
    30 July at 21:40
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    Tricia Yong Pui Yan
    ‎@Mimi: haha, good idea to just "biarkan mereka saja"..tell Pat I say hi and thanks!
    @Sab: may i know how did you find out your son is being bullied at school? did he tell you that but can't identify who the boy is since the teacher needs to...... ask the class to find out. my boy is silent (90%) most of the time about what happened at school, good or bad alike and he has a hard time expressing his thoughts anyway.
    @Sinlay: i hear you. both you and your hubby are very soft and mellow. but strong charcters kids are good! just need to guide them to the right path. mine, i need to up their confidence first before even I can point them to the positive direction.See MoreSee more
    31 July at 08:57
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    Sabrina Woong CW
    ‎@Tricia~ my boy told his dad one night before bed, after being bullied for 2 weeks....luckily he told his dad, then i came to know abt it. he did not tell us before this because he said he can "tahan" 百忍成金。差点给他气死。He knew which boy who bull...ied him. he told us. I reported the name to the teacher also...but i guess the teacher just used her technique to ask the class, hoping the boy would admit it....i guess. Well, my boy also like yr boy, not expressive enough....sigh. sometime also dont know what to do...luckily my hubby has his technique to dig out some secrets from my son, only when he is free. :PSee more
    31 July at 13:08

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